Changing the Rules with Intention

Holiday Screen Time Guide

Family planning screen time rules together

The reality is holiday screen time often looks different. Travel, snow days, big family meals, or new devices mean routines get disrupted. You might be tempted to throw all your rules out the window ("Fine, just watch all day") or lock devices down completely ("No screens until January").

There's a better way: change rules with intention. When you expect more screen time during holidays, name why rules are changing, frame it as temporary, and set clear new boundaries, holiday rules don't have to become chaos.

Why Holidays Hit Different

Kids thrive on structure. Holidays, by design, knock that structure sideways:

  • School's out, routines vanish.
  • There's more free time (and longer indoor hours).
  • Family rules collide ("But Grandma lets me use her iPad in bed!").
  • Travel and delays throw off rhythms.
  • New tech gifts bring brand-new temptations.

Screens are going to fill more space in your child's day — and that's okay. What matters is how you set those temporary changes.

Name the Why

Instead of rules shifting silently (and confusingly), tell your kids exactly why things are different:

"We have a six-hour flight ahead, so today you'll get more tablet time than usual."

"The adults need to cook for the big family dinner, so you and your cousin can watch a holiday movie while we set up."

"We're stuck inside because of the snowstorm, so we'll add an extra gaming session."

"We're visiting relatives, so we'll follow their house rules while we're here."

Naming the reason shows that these are special circumstances, not permanent new habits.

Be Clear About the New Boundaries

Holiday rules don't have to be endless or vague. Spell them out just like you would on a regular week:

"You can play approved games for two hours after lunch."

"You and your cousins can watch TikTok together, but only in the living room with adults around."

"We'll do one movie night this week — you pick the snack, I'll pick the cozy blanket."

Clarity beats conflict. When expectations are stated in advance, kids are less likely to melt down at surprises.

Reassure Kids That Normal Will Return

Kids worry about fairness — especially if more screen time feels like a holiday jackpot. To ease the eventual transition back, plant the seed early:

"This extra screen time is just for the holiday. Once school starts again, we'll go back to our regular routine."

That way, when you say "time to reset" in January, they won't feel blindsided.

A Cookie Analogy

Think of it like holiday desserts. During December, we might eat more sugar than usual — because it's a special occasion. But we also know that come January, things balance out again.

Screen time works the same way: temporary changes are fine, as long as kids know what's different, why, and when you'll reset.

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